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The most common mindset is win-lose: if you get more, that means I get less—so I better get my share first. You think only of yourself and may attempt to win at the expense of others. While you may achieve success in the short-term, eventually you repel the people around you. Trust weakens and productivity wanes. The other one is a lose-win concept: if you get more, there’s nothing I can do, so I’ll just give up. You think of others first and allow them to succeed—sometimes at your own expense. While you may feel safe out of the limelight, eventually you withdraw and resent the success of others. But never has extremity led to effectiveness. Only by considering yourself as well as others when setting expectations, making decisions and planning, an atmosphere is created where people willingly volunteer their efforts, ideas and work as if for their own self. This is what is called a win-win situation, a "think we, not me" situation.

The transition from being an individual to team promoter is one of the hardest things to do. But this is the requirement of today’s business world. This transition requires a change in mindset-what one believes and what one chooses to focus on. Thinking us, not I is not just about teamwork. It is not about how well you work with others-it is more about how well you work through others. Highly mature people don’t win at the expense of others, nor do they easily give up on their own needs. They seek mutual benefit by showing a high degree of courage and consideration in every relationship. Courage governs the self, while consideration makes us sensitive to others’ thoughts and feelings.

Start building up your courage. Believe in yourself. Make sure you have such talents and self confidence that you don’t question yourself and proudly state and show whatever it is that you desire. Don’t let what others know or do, hinder yourself. You are your own person. This is a process and may take time in the beginning but will soon become a virtue.

Start being considerate towards others. Consider their feelings, ideas and thoughts before telling them off. Their thoughts or ideas might be different than yours but that doesn’t make them wrong or incorrect. If only, it will add more angle to your existing ideas. Think of yourself in their shoes and then act.

This new mindset will surely set you off somewhere better than you are right now and even bring mental happiness and success.