A man was walking in the park one day when he came upon a cocoon with a small opening. He sat and watched the butterfly for several hours as it struggled to force its body through the little hole. Then it seemed to stop making any progress. It looked like it had gotten as far as it could, so the man decided to help the butterfly. He used his pocketknife and snipped the remaining bit of the cocoon.
The butterfly then emerged easily, but something was strange. The butterfly had a swollen body and shrivelled wings. The man continued to watch the butterfly because he expected at any moment the wings would enlarge and expand to be able to support the body, which would contract in time. Neither happened. In fact, the butterfly spent the rest of its life crawling around with a swollen body and deformed wings. It was never able to fly. What the man in his kindness and haste did not understand was that the restricting cocoon and the struggle required for the butterfly to emerge was natural. It was nature's way of forcing fluid from its body into its wings so that it would be ready for flight once it achieved its freedom.
Sometimes struggles are exactly what we need in our lives.
If we were allowed to go through life without any obstacles, we would be crippled. We would not be as strong as what we could have been. And we could never fly.
History has shown us that the most celebrated winners usually encountered heartbreaking obstacles before they triumphed. They won because they refused to become discouraged by their defeats.
Failure is one of the toughest things to deal with and happens so frequently in life, on various levels, that learning to deal with it can aid how we approach all types of Endeavour. No one likes experiencing failure, but every attempted goal includes the possibility of failure as well as that of success. To grow we much keep reaching out for these new experiences. Failure feels so bad because it directly affects our ego and sense of identity in relation to the world around us. Failure can make us feel ineffective, inadequate and isolated. But this stage of failure is only temporary and will pass. Try to take advantage of a failure by analyzing what you could have done differently and rest assured that you will never sufferer the same failure again. If a failure was something unavoidable or beyond your control, perhaps you can attempt the project again with other collaborators. In either case, understanding our failures is a key component in dealing with them and being able to move on to new goals and projects.
Throughout life much of what we experiences is based on what we’ve experienced in the past. If we take the time to think more about success than failure, we will find more success than failure in our daily lives. By focusing on success we draw success to ourselves everyone fails, and not just once or twice, but throughout life. If we remember that failure is just a lesson that was too big to learn with success, we’ll realize that everything in life is about learning. You really can’t fail at life, but you can teach yourself to learn even more from living if you’re open to understanding your own failure and working beyond them.