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You've probably observed this in others many times. Maybe even in yourself. Whether it's at work, with friends or in some type of social situation, many people speak their minds before thinking. There are many who "fly off the handle" and don't stop to think about the repercussions of their words. People end up getting hurt, and later on people will be sorry for what they said. But the damage is done. Not only to others but to self too. The damage could be so profound; it will forever sever the relationship. In business, this could forever impact a career in a negative way. Sometimes the subtle difference in our attitude, which can make a major difference in our future, can be as simple as the language we use. It's the difference in even how you talk to yourself or others. It's consciously making a decision to quit saying what you don't want and to start saying what you do want. It's faith—believing in the best, hoping for the best and moving toward the best. Instead of saying, "What if somebody doesn't respond?" start saying, "What if they do respond?" Instead of saying, "What if someone says no?" say, "What if they say yes?" Instead of saying, "What if they start and quit?" say, "What if they start and stay?" Instead of saying, "What if it doesn't work out?" say, "What if it does work out?"

When you start thinking and saying what you really want, then your mind automatically shifts and pulls you in that direction. And sometimes it can be that simple—just a little twist in vocabulary that illustrates your attitude and philosophy.

Our language can also affect how others perform and behave around us. A teenager says to a parent, "I need money. The parents don't accept, because That's not how you get money. That kind of language doesn't work here. But ‘How can I earn money?' might. There is plenty of money here. There is money for everybody—but you have to learn the magic words to get it. To get everything you could possibly want, you just have to learn the philosophy. How important are words and speaking to business leaders? Leaders should think about words as being so powerful that they might be the main reason a leader will succeed or fail. Sure, a leader who doesn't choose his words carefully may succeed to some degree, but the truly great leaders are great orators, as well.Within the words we speak is an emotional potency. Each word that we use can have a colossal impact. A word from a manager or boss, may, at first glance, seem inconsequential. But never think of words as inconsequential. Instead, think of them as powerful. Words can build up or tear down. They can motivate or discourage.

Think about one of the greats: President John F. Kennedy, inaugurated on Jan. 20, 1960. He is known for his famous line: "And so, my fellow Americans, ask not what your country can do for you, ask what you can do for your country."